Still learning...

My mom emailed this letter to me that a RTS mom has on her website.  After reading it, I cried for what seemed hours.  Mainly because this summed up everything I had been feeling for the last two years but had no way to express.  Also because I had never thought about it from Samuel's point of view.

Having a special needs child is something that I never expected.  Who really does?  It had not been seen in my family.  I know of no one close to me with a special needs child.  This is all very new to me.  I've realized a lot; learned a lot through this.  I'm a lot like Michael was when his mom died of cancer.  He didn't want encouragement or advice from anyone unless they had a parent die of cancer.  People try.  I know they mean well; however, most have no idea what they are talking about.  Them trying to relate to me through healthy children of their own doesn't compare.  Nothing compares to this.

So what have I learned so far?  To keep my mouth shut.  Unless I KNOW (have personally experienced) someone's grief, I keep my mouth shut.  I can pray for them.  I can listen to them.  But I will not compare my experiences to theirs.

I'm still learning...